Dating in los angeles sucks

Much more status driven though not as bad as LA, and everyone is very career focused so you might lack the freetime of other cities.

Contrast that to living in other cities, even ones like Chicago, where that can make you stand out a bit. It's also that there are more men than women, compared to a city like NYC or DC, and that you are surrounded by thirsty men making bank in tech roles or chasing dreams via start ups so even if you have a grade A job it can be viewed more as table stakes.

It's not just the lack of attractive women that make it difficult for men.